Hello, everybody. And today is video, we are going to be talking a little bit about anticipatory anxiety or what I like to call future doom thinking that is when we project forward to a set of challenges in our life, something we’re not necessarily looking forward to doing, even a work project that we might enjoy but are unable to take action on presently. And we’re trying to figure out all how to make this work, etc.
There is a certain amount of emotional kickback, a certain amount of emotional disharmony that tends to occur from anticipatory anxiety or future projection into a scenario where you’re not, you know, where you’re taking actions in your mind that you’re not necessarily looking forward to, but you’re feeling them. And that’s and that’s the thing. When we project ourselves forward into the future, into a scenario, onto a challenge, onto a tedious thing like filing our tax returns or something like that, nobody likes doing that. Well, nobody I know. And what happens is when we project forward into that activity, we end up feeling that activity even when we’re not doing it. And what’s kind of funny is that when it comes time to do that thing, to go through those steps and endure that process, what happens is that it tends to feel less bad than the projection projecting forward is because when we project forward, we’re on a level of mind and emotion, which gives us all very much the same sensations and emotional reactions to the thing that we’re thinking about and we’re projecting forward about, but without any of the ability to action remedy action, the steps necessary to conquer or solve or complete, or just put that thing out of the way to get it done, whatever the case may be. And that’s probably especially relevant because it’s a hard time for the annual tax season’s filing. This is not what I was particularly thinking. Oh, for me, I was thinking forward about all my different projects and things I have to work on and and and some of the paperwork that needs to be done and looking and thinking about all these things. And I don’t like these things. I don’t want to have to do these things. These things are a pain in the butt. You know, these things are kind of stupid. They’re useless right now, thinking about all these things in this way of projecting forward, which has a certain emotional charge to it, a lot of resistance, rather, to the emotional.
The act of doing, let’s say, to its resistance to the idea of whatever it is that has to be done, and so when we’re unable to take action, when we’re projecting forward, when we’re experiencing anticipatory anxiety, whatever you want to call it when projecting forward and we’re unable to take action on a thing, it just bubbles around inside of us. It just makes us feel bad. It just can and lend lasts for four days. It can last for weeks. It depends on how long you have until you can take action on this thing. And that’s the whole problem. So it’s this kind of doom, doom thinking, forward projection, anticipatory anxiety. And so here’s the thing. Here’s my suggestion on how to how to not do that. It’s a thought replacement, right, so instead of trying to figure out the thing in the future, in the present, when you’re unable to take action on it and all you could do is think about it and mull it over and kind of work through possible ideas on how to solve it when you finally get there or you know how to not feel bad about it or whatever. Here’s what you do. Instead, you take something that you don’t like thinking about. Uh, let’s get yeah. Let’s use something. For example, let’s use, uh. Paying a speeding ticket and having to go through the hassle of going down to whatever government office where this is done and go through the hassle, all this you don’t have to do.
That’s a pain in the ass. Right. But when you end up doing it. Well, you might find that a bit of an enjoyable walk, right? You might have a little chat with somebody at the office. They might be friendly, the actual actions of doing the thing.
I’ll bet you are not as uncomfortable in our mind and into our emotions as the anticipatory anxiety that that precedes it. And that’s and that’s the whole thing. So when you have something that you’re not looking forward to doing in your mind, replace that thought with I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. It’s an old saying, but it’s applicable. I will action that when I get there. Right. And I, I don’t think and here’s the thing to write. Like I say, it’s not usually as bad as you can project it to be in your mind. The actual emotions that go around the activity of it or not, don’t usually feel as bad as the future projection of doing it right. And they don’t usually last as long either. And that’s the thing. You can maybe start doing your tax reports or something like that and you kind of tune out, you just kind of switch on to autopilot and, you know, you get it done. You’re able to take action on this thing that you’ve been dreading and doing. So you’re able to action it. Right. And since you’re actioning it, you’re not as in your emotional and mental, you know, shit, so to speak. And if you’re not as in your mental monkey mind about these things and having these emotional reactions to these pictures that you’re creating in your monkey mind and having all these, you know, going through all of these emotions that are in anticipation of activity before you even get a chance to do it. You’re just getting a chance now to do it and put that energy into the action.
So I think that probably a much wiser course of action when there’s something that you’re not looking forward to, is to put your mind to it, to put yours to rather, let’s say, insert inject the reminder that that is something to do when we get there across that bridge. When I come to it, it’s not going to be that bad. It’s worse in my mind than the actual activity. If you can start implanting this automatic response and when you start to feel bad, that’s your indicator that you might be thinking about things a little bit wrong. And so take that thing that you think you might be stressing about, even if you’re not sure if it is the thing you’re stressing about. Usually, it is. We don’t often get given enough acknowledgment of the things that we stress about. But even if you’re not a hundred percent sure, if that’s the thing that you’re stressing out, assume that it is. And if there are any other things, take those things to and be and change the way you think about them, too. That is something that I will figure out when I get there. I will be able to handle it. That’s no problem. Right. I’ll just be step by step. I’ll tune out.
I’ll you know, I’ll, I’ll, I’ll play some music.
I’ll just kind of go through the motions of doing this tedious thing or whatever the thing maybe. Right. And until then, don’t, don’t, don’t do those things. You know, there’s this you know, there can be some positive forward projections when you might want to, in your mind, visualize a dress rehearsal for a play or public speaking event or something that you want to practice in your mind. But that is a different sort of forward projection than, let’s say, anticipatory forward projection, which is making you feel bad, which is not something you can do anything about until you get there. So if you can do anything about it until you get there, don’t just try to get into the habit of recognizing when you’re in that type of thinking and put that thought to the side, just replace it with a cross that bridge.
When I come to it, you know, it won’t be so bad when I am doing it and I’ll figure it out when it’s time to figure it out. And until then, think about the things you enjoy. Right? There’s a lot of things you enjoy. Don’t let this the anticipatory anxiety of something that you’re not going to enjoy, ruin the things that you do enjoy. Just put your mind on the things you do. Enjoy it. Bring it back to where you are in life, not on the things that you know you might be having to having to do for, you know, and usually, the things we don’t enjoy doing are things that are kind of imposed upon us. Right. Like tax reports or something like that are a good example of that. These are not things we would do. These are things that are imposed upon us. And of course, we feel angry about them right now. We feel like we feel always angry when unpleasantness is imposed upon us and there’s nothing we can do about it. That is the alchemy of anger. That’s actually how anger happens when you are when you have something imposed on you that you can’t do anything about.
That’s the alchemy of anger. That’s what anger is all about. Anger shakes up the system sometimes, right? If there’s an injustice or a lack of freedom or something unfair anger is meant to shake something up. Unfortunately, in some cases, anger can’t. Do that it’s, you know, not without more of a collaboration than you might be able to do individually like you’re not going to be you’re not going to anger your taxes away. You know, that’s not going to happen, for example. Um, but, uh, yeah. So in some cases, as I say, it’s better just to, uh, you know, be the horse, let and let whoever’s riding you ride you and to get to point A to point B without much thought and certainly without much dread of the journey. Just get there when you get there and think about it when it’s time to be able when you can do something about it when you can activate it. OK, so that’s this video.