You Decide Will You Gift or Burden the Future YOU

You Decide Will You Gift or Burden the Future YOU

Hello, everybody, and today I wanted to talk about an idea that is the gifts that we give to our future self versus the burdens that we place upon our future self and the decisions that we make day to day, and how making decisions which could be qualified and looked upon as gifts to your future self really affect and begin to snowball, but affect your state of mind, your well-being, your happiness, your feeling good about your day today, and, by contrast, how the burdens that we place upon ourselves. Well, those very, very dramatically also affect our state of mind. So let me give you an example, one example of a burden than you might place upon yourself. Well, let’s say you’re looking to clean up your diet. Let’s say you’re looking to get more fit. Let’s say you’re looking to become a healthier, better version of yourself. But in the day today, right now, in this particular moment, maybe, just maybe you don’t feel like going for a hike. You don’t feel like doing a set of pushups. You just don’t really feel like it. And instead of going for a hike or doing a set of pushups, maybe, just maybe you feel like laying on the couch and putting on Netflix and opening a tin of ice cream. Well, you know, that tin of ice cream is probably going to add about a thousand calories to your or you to your body. And but that’s OK. You know what? Because at the moment you feel like you need a little something a little mental pick me up and, you know, a thousand calories really isn’t all that much anyway. You can maybe do a little bit of fasting tomorrow or clean up your diet tomorrow or, you know, just maybe compensate a little bit extra tomorrow and perhaps the next day and to kind of makeup for the little tree that you’ve decided to give yourself today.

Well, that is an example of the present. You put a burden on the future, you the future, you. That’s just going to be tomorrow and in the future, you are going to have to now deal with some of the liberties that the present you are taking is some of the decisions that you are making that, you know are going to be a burden on the future. You, by contrast, and by comparison, an example of a gift that you’re giving to a future version of you might be OK. Well, let’s go for that hike today. Let’s have the healthy chicken broth soup instead of the bag of chips and let’s spend some time doing yoga and well, you know, the future you that happens to maybe even be as soon as tomorrow is you and maybe feels a little bit less stiff tomorrow because he did a nice round of yoga and maybe you noticed a tiny bit of trim, additional Tumnus on your tummy and or or or you perhaps feel like you accomplished something the other day. You did a nice hike, you got some fresh air, you got some cardiovascular activity happening in your lungs. And you have what occurs is this psychological boost that comes from the gift that you gave yourself the day before. Right. So the present you, which was previously the future you, is now enjoying the gift that the past you decided to give you. So what this actually does is create a sort of snowball effect now, because you of the past gave yourself with the present a bit of a gift.

What you also gave yourself is a psychological boost. And what happens when you start something into movement? What do you do? What happens when you create a bit of momentum towards something towards healthy and positive goals is that momentum tends to build upon itself. So you ate good yesterday and you did some fitness and you’re feeling like you’re a little bit ahead of the game in and you feel like maybe, you know, it’s a little bit easier today to well, let’s keep the momentum going. Let’s go for a walk and let’s eat something else healthy and let’s do some more yoga today. Right. So instead of now having a psychological deficit, which is the effect of. Putting a burden on the future, you know, on your future self, deciding to eat that tin of ice cream and not do any exercise and not do the things that inwardly you feel like would make you feel better. And this is different for everybody. And I’m not going to say that one thing is good for everybody and I’m not going to say fitness for you or like meditation is for your yoga for you. But this really has to do with what you inwardly feel is good for you. And you can decide what those things are for yourself. I’m not going to be. I’m just using these use, you know, fitness as an easy example for this kind of story example.

So whereas giving yourself a future self, a gift gives you a positive boost to the future. Opportunities to give the future you additional gifts, the contrast of that whereas putting a burden on yourself actually has a demoralizing effect on the present. So if the past you gave the past, you put a burden on the present, you and you feel like, well, now it’s been three weeks or four weeks or whatever, and I haven’t even gone out for a walk. And I’ve been eating chips and ice cream every single day. And I’m starting to feel it around my waistline. And I’m just I’m feeling more or less varjak than ever before. And I feel like I’ve gone backward instead of forwards. And these sorts of things are going to actually make it even harder to take some positive steps, let’s say some steps that will ultimately lead you to feel better about yourself and feeling better about your day to day and feeling better about your state because the past year has put these extra burdens on the present you. And so I guess we’re as positive. Momentum creates positive momentum, burden creates pounded upon burden. So I think that’s kind of the point of this video. When you’re making decisions day today, it can kind of be helpful to think about those decisions in the light of is this thing that I’m doing now going to be a gift to my future self, or is it going to be a burden that I put on my future self? Because your future self is like one day away, right? Like, it’s almost already now. And so if you decide to put a burden on your future self, it just kind of know that the overall demoralizing effect that that is going to have is going to compound. And what you’re doing today to make you feel a little bit better, you know, giving whatever you’re eating some treats to give yourself a psychological boost or deciding not to work out or deciding just to be lazy and not work on the projects that you care about or whatever.

If you feel like those things are going to leave you feeling worse tomorrow than recognized, that it could potentially leave you feeling even worse the next day and even even even worse the day after that. Whereas if you manage to get yourself to do the thing that you feel like would make you feel better tomorrow, the gift, if you feel like you’re going to do something that’s going to be a gift to the future, you and you get yourself to do that. Also, recognize that that thing is going to help you build momentum into doing those sorts of things which ultimately compound the feeling betterness of the ultimately compound feeling better. And that’s, of course, in my opinion, the point of life. Right. Just feeling better, feeling good, feeling better and feeling good, feeling better. I can’t think of a point of living more relevant than feeling good. Right. Like if you think about life and all of its nuances and everything, everything, everything. And the fact that we even wonder what the point of life sometimes comes down to feeling like that we need something to attach to something to believe in, something to feel like we have a purpose for. And ultimately these things can be simplified into wanting to feel good if we and and and to reinforce that idea that the purpose of life might be just about feeling good.

Well, when you’re feeling good, let me ask you a question. Do you worry about what the purpose of life is or do you tend to worry about what the purpose of life is? When you’re not feeling so good? When you’re feeling good, you don’t really think about what’s the meaning of life and what’s the purpose of life, because you’re too busy feeling good, right? So maybe, just maybe when you’re feeling good, that is the purpose of life. And the point of life is just to find a way to feel good, to feel your best self, to feel better and better, just to feel good, because. Yeah, I mean, if you don’t worry about what the point of life is when you’re feeling good, then maybe, just maybe you’re living within the point of life for that period of time for those moments. And so, yeah, that’s it in the effort to feel good. Consider the gifts or the burdens that you’re putting on your future self with a decision that you’re making day today.

And this doesn’t necessarily mean always, always be super disciplined and always, you know, follow to the letter the things that you feel like you. Sort of maybe obsessively need or to the sort of things that maybe you feel like for some reason are necessary to be happy, but instead. Look at the balance of the overall picture of you, all right, and consider sometimes that, all right, it’s OK to sometimes take a day where you’re not working on your projects, be lazy, take a week, whatever. But the question or like I say, also, you know, eat treats and skip exercise and do these things that maybe are the nice, kind of relaxing, lazy way to do things because but the question is, how do those things fit into the overall balance of you? Because of those things. Are things that you’re doing and they feel good and you don’t feel bad about them, then that’s OK, right? So but if there are things that you’re doing as a repetitive behavioral pattern that’s making you feel compounded bad, well, then it’s become a problem, right? So if you work hard or something like that and you want some time for rest and vacation, take that time. You know, if you want some time to eat treats and not worry about your specific dietary intake, we’ll do that, too. Right. But keep in mind how those things are affecting you psychologically for myself. So I’ll just give an example for myself. If I’m generally good about my eating, generally good about my exercise, generally good about staying on top of the projects that I care about.

If I’m generally in the net positive, then I’m happy to sometimes take treats, take breaks, be lazy. Right. Because I know that overall, I mean the net positive, I don’t have to be 100 percent my most disciplined quote-unquote best self because that’s not what life is about either. Life is the balance of the equation where you feel like you are within your net positive. But at the same time also recognizing that life is about living to live, is about enjoying, is not always just about discipline and accomplishing. And if you’re living only for the reward and the completion of Tegmark, then you’re missing out on the important things too. So that’s I think that’s everything in everything more or less sprawled out. I hope this video is helpful for someone. And if you liked it, consider dropping the like. And if you like this sort of video occasionally being peppered into this channel, let me know. And if you only want to hear about rocks and gemstones, well, let me know that, too. I’m not sure where the line is exactly, but I kind of enjoy making these videos. And yep, if you guys like them, I’ll make some more because I’ve always got things rattling around in the old brain and sometimes some of the things, well, they help me, you know. So yeah. Maybe help you, maybe not let me know, and otherwise have a great day.

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